Lying - a stress response?
Understanding Lying in Children with ADHD
What if your child’s lying is not evidence of a character flaw or disrespect? What if his fibs are actually a self-preservation strategy rooted in poor inhibition, emotional regulation, working memory, and attention — all hallmarks of ADHD? This is the premise behind a new theory that is giving caregivers and educators a new, neurological lens through which to view lies.
Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fib
The brain's response to danger includes Fight, Flight, Freeze, and now "Fib," particularly in those with ADHD.
The limbic system processes danger and activates defense, leading to adrenaline release and stress responses.
Lying as Self-Preservation
Protection: Shields from disappointing others or facing negative outcomes.
Deflection: Temporarily avoids anger and consequences.
Extension: Buys time when under pressure or lacking information.
Self-Preservation: Maintains self-esteem by avoiding perceived threats.
Executive Function Challenges and Lying
Weak Inhibition: Unable to stop speaking or acting impulsively.
Poor Emotional Regulation: Overwhelmed by fear during stress.
Faulty Working Memory: Fails to consider future consequences.
Inconsistent Attention: Distracted, leading to incomplete tasks and lying.
Strategies for Caregivers and Educators
Metacognitive Questioning: Encourage awareness and change in lying behavior.
Creating Space for Time: Reduce feelings of being overwhelmed.
Accountability Opportunities: Promote self-monitoring and evaluation.
Seek Assistance Early: Use accountability partners.
Curiosity Over Judgment: Use open-ended questions to uncover fears.
Psychological Approach
View lying as a neurological response and sign of fractured self-esteem, not a character flaw.
Ref: ADHD and Lying: The Fight, Flight, Freeze or Fib Response (additudemag.com)
