For Dads of Boys with ADHD
10 Connection Builders for a strong father-son relationship
Dads with ADHD often struggle with their sons who also have ADHD. This can hurt their relationship and the child’s self-esteem. Instead of yelling or punishing, try to understand these key points about ADHD in boys and adjust your behavior.
Medication + Strategies Work Best ADHD medications are safe and well-researched. If your son needs them, don’t refuse due to misinformation. Without proper treatment, his learning, social skills, and safety could suffer.
ADHD is a Developmental Delay Boys with ADHD have a slower developing prefrontal cortex, affecting their executive functions. An 11-year-old with ADHD might have the executive skills of an 8 or 9-year-old.
ADHD Isn’t About Intelligence Intelligence doesn’t prevent ADHD-related mistakes. Praise your son for effort and helpfulness, not just for being smart.
Emotional Regulation is Tough Kids with ADHD often struggle to control their emotions. Punishment doesn’t help. Teach them age-appropriate ways to express feelings, but wait until they’re calm to discuss issues.
Criticism Feels Worse to Them Kids with ADHD can be very sensitive to criticism. Offer constructive feedback calmly and after giving praise.
Social Skills Need Help Boys with ADHD may struggle with social skills. Teach them to understand others’ thoughts, feelings and perspectives.
Disrespect and Lying Aren’t Always Intentional These behaviors are often impulsive. Don’t take them personally. Address them calmly later.
Your Reactions Matter Reacting to negative behavior can reinforce it. Give attention to positive actions instead.
They Hyperfocus on Interests Kids with ADHD can focus intensely on things they enjoy but struggle with less interesting tasks. This is a core part of ADHD.
Praise and Recognition Work Best Praise your son for effort and small achievements. This builds his self-confidence and improves your relationship.
Understanding these connection builders can help improve your relationship with your son and support his development.
Ref: Great Dads Try to Understand Their Sons' ADHD: 10 Common Behaviors (additudemag.com)
